Talk, chat

Talking or chatting is one of a activity that we human always practicing. No-matter who is around we talk.
However, in my opinion, talking or communication is one of the important activity in our life. Once we stop talking one day, that is the time we suffer. Chatting allow us to share out what is inside you. It can be anything include fashion, games, life, school, feeling or anything else.
Besides, chatting allow us to free ourselves, gather others opinions may make us go through things more efficiently. By chatting, no-matter it is a verbal or non verbal communication, allow us to know more people, widen or social life. 

MARRIAGES

Marriage can be defined as the union between two individuals. Marriage takes place in a ceremony called wedding and this ceremony is conducted in different manners depending on the culture of the bride and bridegroom. According to Wikipedia, there are about 36 types of marriages and a few of it would be discussed below :-

• LOVE MARRIAGE - occurs when two individuals are mutually attracted to one another.

• ARRANGED MARRIAGE - is the opponent to love marriage. It takes place when two individuals are introduced and match-made via relatives or friends.

• INTER - FAITH MARRIAGE - two individuals who come from completely different religious or cultural background get married. Also known as mixed marriage or cross-culture marriage.

• HUMAN - ANIMAL MARRIAGE - takes place between a man and an animal. This type of marriage was quite common in the past but seldom takes place nowadays.

• DIGITAL MARRIAGE - occurs when two individuals meet via video games.

posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN

DREAMS

Dreams play a very crucial role in our lives. One third of a human life is spent by sleeping. Sleep deprivation has a deep effect on one's efficiency and ability. Hence, dreams are said to stabilize the psychological and physiological activity within us.

Dream can be defined as a series of pictures or events in a mind of a sleeping person. There are actually a few types of dreams :-

• Daydreams - a level of consciousness between sleep and wakefulness. It normally happens during the waking hours where the mind is allowed to stroll and the awareness deteriorates.

• Lucid dreams - enables one to take full control of their dreams and guide them towards the direction they want.

• Nightmares - act as a reaction to real life traumas. It is an unsettling dream that causes a person to wake up feeling very frightened and worried.

•  Healing dreams - are believed to be able to avoid health problems and may help in healing.

• Epic dreams - when a person wakes up from such dreams, he or she would realize that they have discovered something extraordinary about themselves.

All in all, dreams are not just mere imagination that occur during our sleep. Instead, it is a very broad and interesting subject all on its own.

posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN

Laughter

With all the stress in life, for the young and the old, the only medicine that can reduce stress level and prevent any diseases due to stress, is laughter. Laughing has been scientifically proven as a cure for stress and worries. It helps to create positive thoughts in people. There is a saying which goes, ‘To laugh is not a chance but a choice’. Besides, laughing is also said to be contagious. In my opinion, people who can make other people laugh are truly gifted. I have met a few people with this characteristic and I would say that they are really one of a kind. They are able to crack jokes at the nick of time. I have heard many jokes from my friends and below are some of them (have fun reading):


1. Mike: “How much is my mobile bill?”
Call centre girl: “Sir, just dial 123 to know current bill status”
Mike: “Stupid, not CURRENT BILL my MOBILE BILL.”


2. After finishing MBBS John started his practice. He checked 1st patient's eyes, tongue & ears by torch & finally said:
"Torch is okay"


3. Friend 1: Oye, what will happen if electricity is not discovered?
Friend 2: Nothing, we must watch TV in candle light.


4. Mani in airplane going to Bombay. While landing he shouted, "Bombay... Bombay "
Air hostess said: "B silent."
Mani: "Ok.. Ombay. Ombay"


5. Teacher: "What is common between JESUS, KRISHNA , RAM, GANDHI and BUDHA?"
Student: "All were born on government holidays!!!”

6. Teacher: “Which is the oldest animal in world?”
Student: ” ZEBRA”
Teacher: ”How?”
Student: ”Because it is Black & White”


7. Judge: ”Don't you have shame? It is the 3rd time you are coming to court.”
Defendent to judge: ”You are coming daily, don't you have shame?”


8. Question: "Should women have children after 35?"
A smart person replied: "No! 35 children are more than enough!!"

Posted by: A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand

Stammering

Since I was young, I hated the thought of speaking in front of people. It made me nervous. The main reason I had this fear was because of my stammering problem which I had, as far as I can remember, ever since I started talking. This was the reason why I preferred to not to talk to any strangers but only my close friends and my parents. I would say that my stammering was kind of weird because as I grew older, it came for few months and then disappeared for about 2 months and after that came back again. It was so irritating. It will come during my oral presentations in school or when I wanted to tell something very important to someone. It would spoil the effect of the message that I wanted to convey.



I have had many bad experiences due to stammering. During my primary school days, some students used to tease me, but thankfully, I had a friend who was always there to support me. Bless her. Even my cousins would laugh at me when I stammered while talking to them. They found it very humorous. Only I knew how it felt each time I stammered, I felt very shameful and my confidence went down the drain. When I went to secondary school, I dreaded the moments when the teacher called me to read out something. I was a prefect. Unfortunately, in my school, the form five prefects were required to be the master of ceremony twice a year during assembly. I thought to myself , ‘Great, now the whole school will know that I stammer and I am definitely going to make a fool of myself’. Well, it was not that bad after all. I managed to pull it off with all my friends’ moral support.


After my form five examination, I realized that all my friends were not going to be with me in college. I was on my own now. Even worse, I had to live in a hostel. I had no choice but to start talking. Now, I would say that I am a bit better than before. If I stammer, I try to accept it and take it positively; even though it still hurts at times. Nevertheless, I still have a long way to go in building my confidence level. Good luck to me!

Posted by: A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand

Marriages

Marriages are said to be made in heaven. However, nowadays, marriages do not even last for a year or recently, some marriages only lasted for 24 hours. Why is this happening? Well, I would say that the fault usually lies in both the parties. Before marriage, people are lovey dovey couples, but after marriage they start finding faults with each other and when they are unable to tolerate each other, they opt for divorce. Below are some jokes on married couples that are also fruit for thought:



* They say that marriage makes a man dizzy, and it's


true.. As soon as I got a wife, I lost my balance at the


bank.






* Men want 3 qualities in wives: Economist in kitchen,


artist in home & devil in bed.


But they get artist in kitchen, devil in home &


economist in Bed.






* Q: Why do women live longer than men?


A: Shopping never causes heart attacks, but paying the bill


does!






* Before marriage: Roses are red, sky is blue. U r


beautiful, I luv u.


After marriage: Roses are dead, I'm blue. U r my


headache, one day I'll kill u.






* Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant


with friends.


You order what you want, and then when you see what the


other person has, you wish you had ordered that.






* Man: Is there any way for long life?


Dr : married.


Man: Will it help?


Dr : No, but the thought of long life will never come.






* Why do couples hold hands during their wedding?


It's a formality just like two boxers shaking hands


before the fight begins!






* Wife : Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?


Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.

Posted by: A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand

Boys

It is true that there are differences between the ways males and females communicate their messages. This can cause conflicts between both the genders. Besides, there are a lot of things that girls do not realize or understand when it comes to boys. Below are a few things about boys that will be helpful for girls who are currently in a relationship:



1. Guys are more emotional than you think, if they loved you at one point, it'll take them a lot longer than you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.



2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.


3. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.



4. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're going for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.


7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.


8. Guys are very open about themselves.

9. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

10. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.


11. Guys love you more than you love them.


12. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

Posted by: A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand

BE PREPARED AND EVERYTHING WOULD DEFINITELY GO ON WELL

     Most of us have the fear of speaking in public. We are usually afraid of making mistakes, being laughed at and many more. There are actually a few steps that should be followed in order to make your speech much more effective as well as to give you and your audience a better experience.

     Firstly, look at your presentation format. Find out who your organizers are, how much of time you have, and then start planning your speech.

     Next, find out the location on where you would be delivering your speech. This would help you visualize the context of the event.

     Thirdly, prepare an outline of your speech. Once you have a main idea on what you would be speaking about, then you can spend some time structuring the entire speech.

     Then, remember to time yourself. Do not finish your speech too fast and also, don't exceed the time limit.

     Most importantly, build your self confidence as this would help you to feel more calm and relax while you are delivering your speech instead of feeling nervous.

     Finally, practice your speech as often as possible to ensure that you do not forget your speech ; remember that ' Practice Makes Perfect.'

posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN

GOOD LEADERS ARE MADE AND NOT BORN

     You can also be a good leader if you want. All you require is the willpower, training, education and of course, sufficient experience. Leadership can be defined as a course of action by which a person influences others to attain a purpose and directs the organization in a way that make it more organized. Below are a few qualities that can be found in a good leader :

• Ability to listen
• Trustworthy
• Ability to acknowledge and change
• Calm
• Ability to communicate
• Ability to influence a group of people or an organization
• Confident
• Enthusiastic
• Honesty
• Fair-minded
• Inspiring
• Intelligent
• Courageous
• Creative
• Innovative

I believe by applying these qualities and values in our daily lives, we too can be good and successful leaders.

posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN

Interviews.

Interviews are part and parcel of many people's lives. People who are inexperienced in interviews should always practice, practice and practice. It is important to practice because when nervousness takes over, the whole interview will be screwed. When interviewing for a company that has its own products, always be prepared to answer questions relating to the product. Before going for that interview, give yourself few weeks and do some research on the company and product. There is nothing worse than not knowing the product of the company that you are going to work at. The next step is to prepare your physical appearance. Always remember to dress right for job interviews. The aim is to look professional but do not overdo it. You may also want to feel comfortable in what you are wearing. Avoid wearing shirts or skirts that are to tight. Dressing professionally gives you that boost of confidence that you need.

On the day of the interview, remember to arrive at least 15 minutes early. Showing up late leaves a bad first impression of the interviewer. Always be polite to the interviewer. Be aware of your non-verbal behaviour. Sit straight when talking to the interviewer and do not slouch. Often smile and give eye contact to show that you are interested in getting the job. Other than that, listen carefully to the questions asked and give thoughtful, to-the-point and honest answers. Always ask for clarification is you do not understand the question. After the interview, note down important details. Also, it is important to send a email to thank the interviewer, because it shows the professionalism in you.

by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling

Social Phobia

Social phobia is excessive fear of embarrassment in social situations that is extremely intrusive. Many people think that social phobia is fear of socializing, but in actual fact, fear of public speaking (glossophobia) or eating in public is also associated with social phobia. In even more worst cases, some people are even afraid to walk down a street or go shopping in case people look at them. Experts say, “giving an oral presentation in front of an entire class, maybe mingling with a bunch of new friends at University – can be intimidating situations, and a few butterflies and dryness in the mouth are perfectly normal. But it goes beyond shyness when the terror is so great that you avoid raising your hand in class. You don’t go to parties. These types of behaviour indicate a social phobia.” Most social phobia sufferers are invariably loners and are very lonely and they often fail to develop intimate relationships. According to B.Stewart, people with social phobia are often misunderstood by friends, family and co-workers. This is because; they are always uncomfortable with other people. Students with social phobia often avoid situations where they might be included in a group.

There are many ways for an individual to overcome phobia. One of the ways is behaviour therapy. This is considered one of the most successful treatment, but the road would not be an eady one for the client. If people prefer the simpler method of overcoming social phobia, they can opt to try the relaxation method. This is because, relaxation helps to quieten our physical and psychological internal worlds and, therefore, aids in reducing the anxiety level. This method can be done at home, but in a quiet environment. Firstly, breathe slowly and deeply. This helps to relax our bodies immediately and quickly. According to Stewart.W, another common method of combating phobias is to listen to music. Individuals can make a special tape entitled “My Relaxing Music”. Repetitive listening to relaxing music can help a person to drown in their thoughts and relax. In order to make this work, one should get into a comfortable position and close their eyes. This will allow them to flow with the music and learn to live in peace with their imagination.

by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling

Leaderships

Leadership qualities are hard to be found on a person as it requires certain attributes.

Giving an example,
A person who can accept opinions from his followers but not could not reject their opinions might be a good leader but can he actually lead the team without his own decisions? Well, i would say a leader should have good qualities of leadership in all aspects in terms of getting the team cooperate well, avoid conflicts, work towards the objective and be responsible.

In all cases, a group should not have the same Ideology as it can lead to the group having a narrow ideas leading them the unable to think other alternatives and failed to realize their weaknesses.

It is very important to have members with different intelligence and mindset as the team could broaden their ideas and mind to get better ideas.

As for me, i would say some would wanna take the lead of a leader and some wouldnt want to be leader(eg. vice president or assistant). And of course there must not be a lot of leaders in a group because having 1 is more than enough to avoid power sharing authority.

Till then, all of us have the some of the capabilities and charateristics of a leader, its just that how we intend to use it for different purposes.

Posted by : Tan Kah Fei

Interpretations of Body Language (Kiss)

As we know, communication can be in the verbal and non-verbal form. These days I particularly find it interesting to decode the meanings of various types of non-verbal messages. I realize that it carries a lot of meaning and it also helps people to express themselves more clearly( that is if the messages are interpreted by the other properly). Recently, I came across an interesting message in my mail. It conveyed the meanings of different types of kisses and hand movements. Here are some of them:


1. Kiss on the hand
    I adore you


2. Kiss on the cheek
    I just want to be friends


3. Kiss on the neck
   I want you

4. Kiss on the lips
    I love you


5. Kiss on the ears
    I am just playing


6. Kiss anywhere else
    lets not get carried away


7. Look in your eyes
    kiss me


8. Playing with your hair
    I can't live without you


9. Hand on your waist
    I love you to much to let you go

Posted by: A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand

The Power of Encouragement

If you ask me, encouraging people are difficult to comeby these days. Nevertheless, the experience of my acquaintance with encouraging individuals is close to my heart. When I am down, I usually try to cheer myself up by thinking of these people and their motivating words.I think it is very true that words can either make or break people. I actually got this message from a Hindi movie.



The movie, Taare Zameen Par, which means stars on earth is about a boy who is autistic and his problem is not understood by his parents. Hence, thinking that he is plain playful and naughty, they send him away to a boarding school to ‘bring the best’ out of him. He goes to the strict boys’ boarding school where even the teachers are unable to understand his situation and they start punishing and blaming him for everything. This boy loses faith in everything including his own family members who do not give him their support. He goes through his life like a dejected zombie with no happiness or meaning. This is when a new substitute teacher comes to work in that school. Though, just and arts teacher, he immediately understands this boy’s problem and takes the initiative to help him. He motivates the boy to study and brings out the his artistic talent. Then, the teacher talks to the boy’s parents and tells them about an incident in a country(I do not remember the name of that country). The native people there, not wanting to cut down the trees to clear the land for cultivation purposes, stand in a circle around the area that they need and curse the trees with foul words. This goes on for a week; eventually the trees wither away by themselves.


This movie really touched me and I never get bored watching it again and again because with encouraging words any persons hidden talents could be brought to light.

Posted by: A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand