Today i talk about movie again..haha..
last Wednesday i when for a movie again. The movie name '吓到笑' which means' scared until laugh'.
It is a horror movie, contain humor and even also satire.
The movie is a product of our neighbor country, Singapore. Yea, I like movies they produced. One reason i because that their movie mirror what is going on in our real life which people, citizen do not realize or don't dare to reflect. Although, humor are added in all the movie. I take this movie as an example. This movie is about people believes, Chinese believe in ghost but some of the don't. This movie is built up by three movie. Every story shows different ways of believes.
The 1st movie shows a man who do not believe existence of ghost so he used some superstitious to cheat on the citizen. Finally he has been killed by a evil ghost.
2nd story, two soldier are having their training in a jungle and they are lost. They met a ghost in the 1st day so then they are worried on the 2nd day. Who knows on the second day they though they had been save by a girl who kill them at the end as a present for her dead aunt.
3rd Story, three brothers always worship their dead mother ask for fortune and riches but they dint get it while their friend got much of fortune. Their dead mother always visit them in the form of soul and they are afraid of their mother they a worshiping. At the end, their dead mother save them from a landslide. On the other hand, their friend got cancer and left 3 month life which mean their mother give them safety although riches cant be gave.
This three shows what?? They worship ghost and take them as their brothers, but they scare about them also. Isn't it sounds funny? What for you worship them?
These movie which reflect thing that happened in daily may make us alert, make us awake.
david
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Songs vs music
It is true that songs and music communicate !
Yea.. Much of friends has showed how the song they liked give them impression and sometimes even give them comfort and help. For me, same like others, songs also give me comfort especially songs in church. When i was depress or my faith was disturbed, songs cheer me up.
However, we need different song in different mood. Not every song suit our mood in every moment even our favorite. For example, when depress we may need songs that can cheer or comfort us. On the other hand, when we were happy we may like some relax and lively songs.
Songs also communicate differently in different moment with different mood. You may get different impress followed your mood although it is the same song and the same lyric. However, most of the time we just install the first perception when we listen to the song.
Music is one of the important part for songs but can you get the meaning by just listening to the music??
yesterday night, i listen to radio. There was a band, a group of music lover showing their product, music they wrote. When the music played, i can't even get what what they trying to carry out, what the music says. Actually it is a dramatic music, you need to imagine when it played. A story about a planet that occupied by others and the music is telling the situation there. It is not easy to get the contain in a music rather than a song.
Music and songs communicate but everyone got the different while listening to it.
david
Yea.. Much of friends has showed how the song they liked give them impression and sometimes even give them comfort and help. For me, same like others, songs also give me comfort especially songs in church. When i was depress or my faith was disturbed, songs cheer me up.
However, we need different song in different mood. Not every song suit our mood in every moment even our favorite. For example, when depress we may need songs that can cheer or comfort us. On the other hand, when we were happy we may like some relax and lively songs.
Songs also communicate differently in different moment with different mood. You may get different impress followed your mood although it is the same song and the same lyric. However, most of the time we just install the first perception when we listen to the song.
Music is one of the important part for songs but can you get the meaning by just listening to the music??
yesterday night, i listen to radio. There was a band, a group of music lover showing their product, music they wrote. When the music played, i can't even get what what they trying to carry out, what the music says. Actually it is a dramatic music, you need to imagine when it played. A story about a planet that occupied by others and the music is telling the situation there. It is not easy to get the contain in a music rather than a song.
Music and songs communicate but everyone got the different while listening to it.
david
Communicating with the dead
The Hungry Ghost Festival just recently passsed. I have always been fascinated of this month where the "Gates of Hell" open and all the restless spirits roam the earth. Sounds scary huh. If you live in a community which is mostly populated by Chinese, during that month, they will set up big tents where prayers and special performances are held for the spirits. The purpose of the performances is because the spirits also want entertainment during that month too. Rumour has it that, these spirits are those who did not die peacefully. If you had observed the roadside, there were joss sticks and food placed at every corner. The purpose of this is so that the "hungry" spirits do not disturb the families. Also during this month, families will go to temples and seek mediums so that they can communicate with the deceased. The medium will first ask the family what they want to ask. Next the medium places joss sticks at the alter and then he starts to chant. Sometimes the medium will shake violently when he is communicating with the deceased. After the shaking subsides he gives the family the answer and the family will make offerings to the temple. This may sound hard to believe because you might think that it is impossible to communicate with the dead, but you will never know that these things are just make up or the real thing.
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
Skill of communicating
Everytime a teacher ask a volunteer to come out and speak, the students will either look elsewhere or put their heads down fearing the teacher will call their names out. Not everybody has the skill to communicate well. Some people are so called born with it and some people are able to master the skill of communicating. Communicating is a everyday thing, either with your parents, close friends or even yourself. There are a few ways we can improve our communcation skills.
1) Be a good listener. If you learn to listen well, you can make use of what the person says when you are communicating with someone else.
2) When you speak to people always BE POLITE! This is one of the most important aspects of communicating.
3) It is beneficial to have a sense of humor in conversations, but you must know your limit.
4) Always be optimistic when you start a speech. It helps to overcome fear when speaking in front of an audience.
5) Lastly, talk to people with good communication skills, that way you can learn a thing or two.
Good Luck =)
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
1) Be a good listener. If you learn to listen well, you can make use of what the person says when you are communicating with someone else.
2) When you speak to people always BE POLITE! This is one of the most important aspects of communicating.
3) It is beneficial to have a sense of humor in conversations, but you must know your limit.
4) Always be optimistic when you start a speech. It helps to overcome fear when speaking in front of an audience.
5) Lastly, talk to people with good communication skills, that way you can learn a thing or two.
Good Luck =)
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
Types of Sexual Harassment
Ever wonder the term sexual harassment actually has alot of meanings? Well, if you should know, it could be expressed verbally,non verbally, visually, physically, or mentally.
Those that i mentioned above are self-explanatory and if you dont understand any of it, i could say the acts of sexual harassment that are done verbally are words expressed such as ''sluts,whore, sexy, promiscuous and other unpleasant words to describe a person regardless of gender. For non-verbal acts of sexual harassment could be seen by eye contact, whistling, and more to the body language. However, visually expressed sexual harassment could be explained with the examples of colleagues putting pornography posters on his desk would actually be counted as sexual harassment. As for physical and psychological sexual harassment, we can see that physical body contact between one and another without relation will be accounted as being harassed and psychological harassment could meant undesired social relation or physical intimacy.
But there are other 2 types that are also part of sexual harassment
Those 2 are Hostile environment and Quid Pro Quo
Perhaps these 2 terms would be new to many people as it clearly explains how important the terms can be applied to our daily lives, well mostly toward girls.
Hostile environment is mainly occurred in education since when we were a child, half of the day we spend time in schools,colleges,universities and of course there would be other students in groups or gangs around you. This term applies when an individual or a group tends to disturb or harass a student in school. Examples, whispering in the ear, send unpleasant love messages or even stalking without you noticing. It could actually affects an individual in many aspects because his/her performance would be affected, unwilling to attend classes, and lack of concentration due to environment disturbance.
As for Quid Pro Quo, we can explain it in a way that it usually happens in the workplace where by co-workers or employees are usually at the state of being threatened by their higher authorities or bosses or school girls in school wanting to get good grades resulting involvement of sexual affairs with their teachers. Another term for it can be called Power-player in which the employees are forced to involve in sexual treats in order to get benefits, otherwise, their job is at stake and perhaps lower chances of better future in companies.
Thats it for all. Hope this will acknowledge about sexual harassment!
Especially to girls out there, better be cautious! Prevention is better than cure! or am i wrong ? :D
Posted by : Tan Kah Fei
Cultural Identifiers
Before today, I never really bothered about the words that I used to identify people. I did not know that certain words which I used could actually hurt people’s feelings. I had no idea that referring to a lady as woman is also disrespectful but I knew that I should not refer to an elderly person as old man because once for fun I called my dad that and I had to hear a days long of music from my mom. So since that I told myself never to refer to an elderly person as old man or old woman.
Last year I went for a seminar and one of the speaker said that some of the teenagers nowadays are really not respecting their parents. The speaker gave an example that is a dialog between a mother and her son. The mother will be saying to her son that you should listen to your dad and do not talk back when he is talking. The son answered “ Mom ask your husband to not cross my line!” and walked of. I think that refering to your dad as your mom’s husband is way more rude than calling him an old man.
Recently, I met my friend who is studying in a college in Nilai. He told me that once he and his friends were eating in a restaurant and he saw a very tall African guy walking past the restaurant. He wanted to show his friends that guy so he told to his friends “ Hey look at that negro!” The moment he finished saying that another African who was in the restaurant came and slapped my friend and started shouting foul words at him. My friend was so shocked that he just looked on dumbstruck. The African was on the verge of bashing up my friend. Thank God, my friend’s friend started explaining to the African that my friend is from a small town and does not know that he should not have used the word ‘negro’. Only after my friend apologised did the African back off with a warning to never use words like ‘negro’ and ‘black’.
From this incident I learnt that we should make sure that we do not use words that can make other people feel angry or hurt. We should put ourselves in their shoes and think how we will feel if we are referred to as something that sounds rude and degrading. We should try to follow the saying which goes “ Do unto others what you want others to do onto you”.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
Last year I went for a seminar and one of the speaker said that some of the teenagers nowadays are really not respecting their parents. The speaker gave an example that is a dialog between a mother and her son. The mother will be saying to her son that you should listen to your dad and do not talk back when he is talking. The son answered “ Mom ask your husband to not cross my line!” and walked of. I think that refering to your dad as your mom’s husband is way more rude than calling him an old man.
Recently, I met my friend who is studying in a college in Nilai. He told me that once he and his friends were eating in a restaurant and he saw a very tall African guy walking past the restaurant. He wanted to show his friends that guy so he told to his friends “ Hey look at that negro!” The moment he finished saying that another African who was in the restaurant came and slapped my friend and started shouting foul words at him. My friend was so shocked that he just looked on dumbstruck. The African was on the verge of bashing up my friend. Thank God, my friend’s friend started explaining to the African that my friend is from a small town and does not know that he should not have used the word ‘negro’. Only after my friend apologised did the African back off with a warning to never use words like ‘negro’ and ‘black’.
From this incident I learnt that we should make sure that we do not use words that can make other people feel angry or hurt. We should put ourselves in their shoes and think how we will feel if we are referred to as something that sounds rude and degrading. We should try to follow the saying which goes “ Do unto others what you want others to do onto you”.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
Hearing and Listening
Hearing is something that we do every second of our lives because hearing happens when sound waves hit our ear drums and the sound is amplified and transmitted to the brain through the nerves. So we hear every sound in the environment that we are in but the thing is we do not listen to every single sound brought to our ears. This is because we listen to things that interests us only and try to interpret those sounds for our own understanding.
This being the case , it is very vital for us to ask ourselves wether we are listening or just hearing when we are involved in a conversation because this determines our relationship with the other. If the other finds out that we are not listnening to what they are saying than this can affect our relationship very badly. Besides, when we listen to the other who is speaking it shows that we respect the person.
Listening is especially important when someone is pouring their heart out to us. This is a scenario where we really have to listen with empathy because it involves the feelings of a person. My friend once told me about her cousin who was going under depression. This cousin which I will be referring to as X was a very bright student but then suddenly she was unable to concentrate and perform in her studies. When X’s results dropped her parents got worried but X would not tell her parents the problem that she was having because to her she felt that all these years her parents were only interested in hearing about her grades and other than that they never really spoke to her empathatically. So X thought that they would not be able to understand her problem now because they never really paid attention to her when she was speaking before.
This clearly shows that due to lack of listening on X’s parents side earlier made X to loose her trust on her parents that they will never understand her. Hence, I learnt that people(including me) should always listen empathatically when someone is speaking to us. We should also observe their nonverbal messages and give feedback to the speaker through our verbal or nonverbal cues. Lastly, we should always strive to improve our listening skills as they are part and parcel of our everyday lives.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
This being the case , it is very vital for us to ask ourselves wether we are listening or just hearing when we are involved in a conversation because this determines our relationship with the other. If the other finds out that we are not listnening to what they are saying than this can affect our relationship very badly. Besides, when we listen to the other who is speaking it shows that we respect the person.
Listening is especially important when someone is pouring their heart out to us. This is a scenario where we really have to listen with empathy because it involves the feelings of a person. My friend once told me about her cousin who was going under depression. This cousin which I will be referring to as X was a very bright student but then suddenly she was unable to concentrate and perform in her studies. When X’s results dropped her parents got worried but X would not tell her parents the problem that she was having because to her she felt that all these years her parents were only interested in hearing about her grades and other than that they never really spoke to her empathatically. So X thought that they would not be able to understand her problem now because they never really paid attention to her when she was speaking before.
This clearly shows that due to lack of listening on X’s parents side earlier made X to loose her trust on her parents that they will never understand her. Hence, I learnt that people(including me) should always listen empathatically when someone is speaking to us. We should also observe their nonverbal messages and give feedback to the speaker through our verbal or nonverbal cues. Lastly, we should always strive to improve our listening skills as they are part and parcel of our everyday lives.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
SEXUAL HARASSMENT
Sexual harassment can be defined as any unwelcome verbal, non-verbal, visual, psychological or physical conduct of a sexual nature that might, on reasonable grounds, be perceived by the victim as placing a condition of a sexual nature on his or her employment because of his or her sex. As stated above, sexual harassment may exist verbally, non-verbally, visually, psychologically and many more. Let us look at the types of different sexual harassments :
- Verbal harassment – includes uncomfortable and offensive teasing, joking, questioning, or making suggestive remarks or sounds.
- Non-verbal harassment – a leer with indecent overtone or desire denoted by hand signal, lips licking or food eating and persistent flirting.
- Visual harassment – covering the wall with pin-up, calendars, drawings, photographs of naked women or other sex-based materials.
- Psychological harassment – harms a person's psychological well being and includes oppressively constant proposals for dates, repeated undesirable physical intimacy or social invitations.
- Physical harassment – includes distasteful action such as touching of an intimate body part, patting, pinching, stroking, brushing up against the body, hugging, kissing, and sexual assault.
by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Body language
Body language is a for of non-verbal communication which can constitute 50% or more of what we are communicating. If you wish to communicate well, then it makes sense to understand how you can and cannot use your body to say what you mean.
Body language comes in clusters of signals and postures, depending on the internal emotions and mental states.
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Body language comes in clusters of signals and postures, depending on the internal emotions and mental states.
- Aggresive body language: Showing physical threat.
- Attentive body language: Showing real interest.
- Bored body language: Just not being interested.
- Closed body language: Many reasons are closed.
- Deceptive body language: Seeking to cover up lying or other deception.
- Defensive body language: Protecting self from attack.
- Dominant body language: Dominating others.
- Emotional body language: Identifying feelings.
- Evaluating body language: Judging and deciding about something.
- Greeting body language: Meeting rituals.
- Open body language: Many reasons for being open.
- Power body language: Demonstrating one's power.
- Ready body language: Wanting to act and waiting for the trigger.
- Relaxed body language: Comfortable and unstressed.
- Romantic body language: Showing attraction to others.
- Submissive body language: Showing you are prepared to give in.
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Difficulties faced in communication
It is a known fact that communication takes place between two parties ; the speaker and the lisener. The first half of communication is to express what you feel and your opinions whereas the second half of communication is to not only listen, but to understand the message that is being conveyed. The message conveyed may be verbally or non-verbally, depending on the speaker. When the message is being sent by the speaker, the receiver decodes the messagge and interprets it into understanding and meaning.
However, most of the time, effective communication does not take place and the main reason is because the speaker and listener face difficulties while communicating. Firstly, let us look at the difficulties faced by the speaker while communicating.
- Including too many unnecessary details while communicating, thus making the message complicated.
- Forgetting the point of interaction.
- Volume of the voice is too low to be heard.
- Not using proper body language. For example, smiling when hurt is being expressed.
Listeners also face difficulties while communicating and some of the difficulties faced by listeners are :
- Making judgements about the speaker or the message that is being conveyed.
- Being distracted by what is happening in the surrounding.
- Listening to your own personal beliefs about what is being said.
- Not willing to listen to the speaker.
To conclude, it is important for both parties to play an important role while communicating. Effective communication will only exist if both parties play their roles well.
by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Flirtacious
When you see someone that caught your attention, you want try to strike conversation with them. While you're talking to him, you can also try to flirt to show that you are interested in him. For those of you girls who dare to try to flirt with some guy, try this!
a) Eye contact is very important. It tells you, you are sincere.
b) Do not stay in a group. No man can't stand a rejection in front of a herd. Also, he may feel that he can't approach you because of your friends.
c) Be positive. Feel good about yourself and everyone, and they will feel good about you.
d) Get to know him. Try to find out whether he is your type or not. If you feel comfortable with him, then go ahead.
e) Compliments. Be sure to compliment them on things that are true, so you sound more sincere naturally.
f) Soft giggle and smile. If your perfect smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will fine great results.
g) Lastly, be YOURSELF! You will not enjoy any moment of it if you are playing somebody who you are not supposed to be. Stay focus and be proud of who you are!
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
a) Eye contact is very important. It tells you, you are sincere.
b) Do not stay in a group. No man can't stand a rejection in front of a herd. Also, he may feel that he can't approach you because of your friends.
c) Be positive. Feel good about yourself and everyone, and they will feel good about you.
d) Get to know him. Try to find out whether he is your type or not. If you feel comfortable with him, then go ahead.
e) Compliments. Be sure to compliment them on things that are true, so you sound more sincere naturally.
f) Soft giggle and smile. If your perfect smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will fine great results.
g) Lastly, be YOURSELF! You will not enjoy any moment of it if you are playing somebody who you are not supposed to be. Stay focus and be proud of who you are!
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
physical emotion & behavior
I just went back from TS=Time square.
Feel like the whole day is wasted although hanging outside. Today i spend almost the time staying together with my bro and sister in Christ which I less interact with them. Like just knowing their appearance.
However, when i was going back by the lrt i realize that actually i got something today.
Since morning i spend my time with them. In the whole day, i am able to differentiate what kind of person they are.
The way they talk, their movement, the way they treat people are so different.
Everyone of them are so special and God creations are so special.
However, on the other hand, i saw their needs, needs which is because the 'needs' are lack in their family and daily time.
They needs more care, more love and more words that can stir up their faith and confidence.
Youngster nowadays need care, love and confident. Why they keep finding a partner and fall in a relationship? Is to fulfill their needs in their heart.
david
Feel like the whole day is wasted although hanging outside. Today i spend almost the time staying together with my bro and sister in Christ which I less interact with them. Like just knowing their appearance.
However, when i was going back by the lrt i realize that actually i got something today.
Since morning i spend my time with them. In the whole day, i am able to differentiate what kind of person they are.
The way they talk, their movement, the way they treat people are so different.
Everyone of them are so special and God creations are so special.
However, on the other hand, i saw their needs, needs which is because the 'needs' are lack in their family and daily time.
They needs more care, more love and more words that can stir up their faith and confidence.
Youngster nowadays need care, love and confident. Why they keep finding a partner and fall in a relationship? Is to fulfill their needs in their heart.
david
Perceptions and Impressions
When perception comes to our mind, could it actually be perceived as impressions as well?
Hmm, the definition of Perception is the act or faculty of apprehending by means of the senses or of the mind; cognition; understanding or so its been defined lexically. However Impression means the first and immediate effect of an experience or perception upon the mind; sensation in which both could have different meanings but could it be used for the same thing?
To me, both of those words could be used for the same apparent thing.
As an example, when people see you for the first time whether or not in any places such as around HELP University College, im pretty sure people will look at you with their first glance and start judging you in person. When that happens, there goes impression and perception comes in play. Your appearance, attire, personality, and style would eventually give birth to those impressions and perceptions.
Lets just say, when a girl steps in the college with branded handbags such as LV, Gucci and express with a flamboyant attitude, would eventually be branded as an arrogant girl or perhaps ''bitchy'' or a guy with short pants and slippers walk in the class late without his bag, sitting at one corner could be judged as being a person that procrastinate, lazy, or even irresponsible.
I would say, some perceptions and impressions could be partially true but not entirely as the saying goes don't judge a book by its cover. True but well, not all people would know a person's true nature unless they get to know him/her. However i do believe we live and perform for the first impression. What i mean is that we tend to wear decent clothes, putting up our best appearance in the public so that our first impression would be positively born and implanted on others. Perception is created when we think of what it is, like what my lecturer said, the perception could be related to the Halo Effect that we always have the thought of a lecturer who has good presentation skills, professionalism, formal-attire and other positive factors.
As we all are aware, people are judgmental, as an example, taking subjects that are non-mathematical based such as Human Communication, Tourism and subjects that are usually in the art fields, we would think of getting some lecturers that are friendly, approachable, and fun. In this case, we seek for these treats and for the most part, its quite true.
Till then, you be the judge. Happy Raya! :D
Cheers!
Posted by : Tan Kah Fei
Hmm, the definition of Perception is the act or faculty of apprehending by means of the senses or of the mind; cognition; understanding or so its been defined lexically. However Impression means the first and immediate effect of an experience or perception upon the mind; sensation in which both could have different meanings but could it be used for the same thing?
To me, both of those words could be used for the same apparent thing.
As an example, when people see you for the first time whether or not in any places such as around HELP University College, im pretty sure people will look at you with their first glance and start judging you in person. When that happens, there goes impression and perception comes in play. Your appearance, attire, personality, and style would eventually give birth to those impressions and perceptions.
Lets just say, when a girl steps in the college with branded handbags such as LV, Gucci and express with a flamboyant attitude, would eventually be branded as an arrogant girl or perhaps ''bitchy'' or a guy with short pants and slippers walk in the class late without his bag, sitting at one corner could be judged as being a person that procrastinate, lazy, or even irresponsible.
I would say, some perceptions and impressions could be partially true but not entirely as the saying goes don't judge a book by its cover. True but well, not all people would know a person's true nature unless they get to know him/her. However i do believe we live and perform for the first impression. What i mean is that we tend to wear decent clothes, putting up our best appearance in the public so that our first impression would be positively born and implanted on others. Perception is created when we think of what it is, like what my lecturer said, the perception could be related to the Halo Effect that we always have the thought of a lecturer who has good presentation skills, professionalism, formal-attire and other positive factors.
As we all are aware, people are judgmental, as an example, taking subjects that are non-mathematical based such as Human Communication, Tourism and subjects that are usually in the art fields, we would think of getting some lecturers that are friendly, approachable, and fun. In this case, we seek for these treats and for the most part, its quite true.
Till then, you be the judge. Happy Raya! :D
Cheers!
Posted by : Tan Kah Fei
Monday, September 21, 2009
Raya!
As you all know, it's the month of Syawal where we Muslims get to celebrate Hari Raya. First of all, it's Monday and I just posted this today. The reason being is because I was terribly busy helping my mom for the preparation of Raya for this past 2 days. So, I just wanna share you about my preparation of Raya. The girls, my mom, my sister and I will cook a few dishes such as Rendang, Sambal Goreng, Ayam Masak Merah, Sambal Udang, and Lodeh. Sounds delicious yet it was not easy to prepare these dishes. Cuting the onions, chilli and others are not my specialty. My mom wants me to cut them into thin slices and I wasn't able to do that because it is difficult. On the other hand, I was helpful when it comes to washing the chickens until they are clean and odorless. The boys will help my father clean the house. For instance, wiping the windows, clear the dust out of the fans and more. After the cooking, I vacuumed and moped the whole house. I guess cleaning is my cup of tea. Also, I filled the cookies or "Kuih raya" into the jars. My mom asked me to do so but I filled them into my mouth instead. That's enough about the preparation. Moving on to the celebration. All the males and females will go to the mosque in the early morning to pray. It is compulsory to the men but it is circumcise to the ladies. After the prayers, we will ask forgiveness to the elders and they will give money or "Ampau" in return. To me, that's the best part and I love to celebrate Hari Raya with my loved ones. Below is a picture of my family and I on the first day of Raya.
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Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
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Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Assumptions leads to Ambiguity
When two persons are engaged in a conversation, it is normal for one of the person to assume that the other person knows or understands clearly what he or she is saying and hence omits certain words which are actually necessary. But this is not always so because there are many meanings to a single word and how sure are we that the other person has fully understood what we meant. Misunderstanding the meaning of words can cause serious problems like relationship break-ups, quarelling, wounded feelings and friendship break-ups.
For example, once I attended a family gathering and there one of my aunts was talking to my mother. As she was talking about someone she assumed that my mom would know who she is talking about and started saying " You know I met that person that we met that day in Midvalley when I went to the market this morning." My mom did not know who she was referring to so she stopped my aunt and asked her. Then only we knew who she was referring to.
Another incident happened to me when I went to the theatre a few days ago. I went to the concessions to buy popcorn and as I was rushing I asked the person at the counter "One large". The person stared at me and I said "One large" again. Still he was staring at me and then when I said "One large popcorn", he understood and smiled at me. After that, I was thinking how stupid of me to assume that the person knows that I am referring to the popcorn. "One large" could mean pepsi, water bottle, potato chips or popcorn.
From these incidents, I have understood that to avoid situations like these, we have to:
1) Ask the other person if he/she understood what we said
2) Try not to omit words
3) State our message as clearly as possible
4) Observe facial expressions when talking, to detect uncertainty in the other person
5) If we do not understand what the other person is saying, ask the person to clarify your doubts
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
For example, once I attended a family gathering and there one of my aunts was talking to my mother. As she was talking about someone she assumed that my mom would know who she is talking about and started saying " You know I met that person that we met that day in Midvalley when I went to the market this morning." My mom did not know who she was referring to so she stopped my aunt and asked her. Then only we knew who she was referring to.
Another incident happened to me when I went to the theatre a few days ago. I went to the concessions to buy popcorn and as I was rushing I asked the person at the counter "One large". The person stared at me and I said "One large" again. Still he was staring at me and then when I said "One large popcorn", he understood and smiled at me. After that, I was thinking how stupid of me to assume that the person knows that I am referring to the popcorn. "One large" could mean pepsi, water bottle, potato chips or popcorn.
From these incidents, I have understood that to avoid situations like these, we have to:
1) Ask the other person if he/she understood what we said
2) Try not to omit words
3) State our message as clearly as possible
4) Observe facial expressions when talking, to detect uncertainty in the other person
5) If we do not understand what the other person is saying, ask the person to clarify your doubts
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
Perceptions
It is very true that different people perceive a situation differently from one another. When I think of this, one incident comes to mind and sadly the subject of that incident was me. This happened when I was on a trip in India. I went there for a holiday with my parents and during the trip we went to visit our relatives in our native village. The problem was I did not want to wear traditional clothes all the while because the weather was so hot. So I decided to slip inside my baggy T-shirt and jeans as I was more comfortable in them.
Then I regretted wearing it because in some places we had to walk to our relatives houses and people along the road were staring at me as if they had never seen a human before. I was irritated by this and I was glad to finally enter into my relative's house but I was wrong. There was this old lady in that house who came up and spoke to me nicely at first but after that asked me why was I wearing like that. She said I am not a European to wear like that and for her wearing like that equals to wearing nothing. I was so so offended.
She was partially deaf and respecting her age I decided to shut my mouth but I was thinking to myself that she must be mad or something to say such a thing. It was a baggy T-shirt and jeans, I was fully covered compared to the saree she was wearing. After that, we went to Bangalore and there it was a different story. People in Bangalore were not bothered what clothes you were wearing because they were far more fashionable and modenized than I was.
Now, I have come to understand that the way the old lady perceived things were traditional because she was born and bred in that village. Till today she has not seen the world and that was her upbringing also, I guess. Hence, her mentality is fixed to perceive things the traditional way. On the other hand, Bangalore is a very modenized city almost like Kuala Lumpur, and thus the people there are more open minded in the way they perceived things.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
Then I regretted wearing it because in some places we had to walk to our relatives houses and people along the road were staring at me as if they had never seen a human before. I was irritated by this and I was glad to finally enter into my relative's house but I was wrong. There was this old lady in that house who came up and spoke to me nicely at first but after that asked me why was I wearing like that. She said I am not a European to wear like that and for her wearing like that equals to wearing nothing. I was so so offended.
She was partially deaf and respecting her age I decided to shut my mouth but I was thinking to myself that she must be mad or something to say such a thing. It was a baggy T-shirt and jeans, I was fully covered compared to the saree she was wearing. After that, we went to Bangalore and there it was a different story. People in Bangalore were not bothered what clothes you were wearing because they were far more fashionable and modenized than I was.
Now, I have come to understand that the way the old lady perceived things were traditional because she was born and bred in that village. Till today she has not seen the world and that was her upbringing also, I guess. Hence, her mentality is fixed to perceive things the traditional way. On the other hand, Bangalore is a very modenized city almost like Kuala Lumpur, and thus the people there are more open minded in the way they perceived things.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
Saturday, September 19, 2009
The Communication Process
Talking about communication process, there is a process between the speaker and the audience.The process takes place when a source which is also the speaker is trying to send a message or information to the audience.
As you can see, the image above shows the process of sending information, and it repeats and recycles. :D
To make things more simple, the source is actually the speaker and the receiver is either the audience or the listener. So it starts when a speaker is sending a message regardless whether it is verbal or non-verbal, the speaker is thinking(Encoding) of what message is to be sent to the audience. From that point, you can see that the Channel is actually the ways of sending message which mean that the message could be represent via different media such as Newspaper,magazine,Internet and others as well. Decoding process involves ways to interpret messages sent by the speakers to the receiver that would enable listeners to get the idea easily. There is actually Noise in the center which is the interference like raindrops,constructions sounds, a person's whisper and other environmental disturbance. Of course mechanical error such as the projector is not working or mobile phone is out of battery could be classified with Noise. It will then undergo the Decode process to translate (data or a message) from a code into the original language or form. Finally it will come to the receiver where the receiver/audience/listeners will start to Respond to the message whether they get the meaning of the message or not. The Feedback is the last cycle of the picture where results of listeners will give their feedback on what they think of the message whether it is understandable, accepted or rejected.
Sorry for the long explanation of the process. In short, i would like to give an example on how the communication process works.
Example.
Its like when you are in college attending your classes, your lecturer will be the speaker and he/she will start encoding information to the receiver which is the students and then the lecturer will start to send the information in different ways(Channel) like putting up an activity or maybe will pictures on the powerpoint slides and so on. Of course in the midst of that, there will be interruptions such as people talking, distractions from outside or maybe overflowing messages from friends and those are called the Noise. The date being shown with different mediums by the lecturer will be the decoding process to translate data or a message from a code into the original language or form(pictures,words,images,videos etc etc.).It will then reach to the students to see how they Respond to what their lecturer told them like smiley faces, or confused. Feedback is the last thing the student would do after responding in regards of whether they would understand the information given by their lecturer or they would ask questions if they are unsure. Thats about it. The Communication Process.
Its actually very easy to understand the process as it is also very helpful in terms of understanding between a speaker and a listener in our daily conversations. :D
Cheers!
Posted by : Tan Kah Fei
As you can see, the image above shows the process of sending information, and it repeats and recycles. :D
To make things more simple, the source is actually the speaker and the receiver is either the audience or the listener. So it starts when a speaker is sending a message regardless whether it is verbal or non-verbal, the speaker is thinking(Encoding) of what message is to be sent to the audience. From that point, you can see that the Channel is actually the ways of sending message which mean that the message could be represent via different media such as Newspaper,magazine,Internet and others as well. Decoding process involves ways to interpret messages sent by the speakers to the receiver that would enable listeners to get the idea easily. There is actually Noise in the center which is the interference like raindrops,constructions sounds, a person's whisper and other environmental disturbance. Of course mechanical error such as the projector is not working or mobile phone is out of battery could be classified with Noise. It will then undergo the Decode process to translate (data or a message) from a code into the original language or form. Finally it will come to the receiver where the receiver/audience/listeners will start to Respond to the message whether they get the meaning of the message or not. The Feedback is the last cycle of the picture where results of listeners will give their feedback on what they think of the message whether it is understandable, accepted or rejected.
Sorry for the long explanation of the process. In short, i would like to give an example on how the communication process works.
Example.
Its like when you are in college attending your classes, your lecturer will be the speaker and he/she will start encoding information to the receiver which is the students and then the lecturer will start to send the information in different ways(Channel) like putting up an activity or maybe will pictures on the powerpoint slides and so on. Of course in the midst of that, there will be interruptions such as people talking, distractions from outside or maybe overflowing messages from friends and those are called the Noise. The date being shown with different mediums by the lecturer will be the decoding process to translate data or a message from a code into the original language or form(pictures,words,images,videos etc etc.).It will then reach to the students to see how they Respond to what their lecturer told them like smiley faces, or confused. Feedback is the last thing the student would do after responding in regards of whether they would understand the information given by their lecturer or they would ask questions if they are unsure. Thats about it. The Communication Process.
Its actually very easy to understand the process as it is also very helpful in terms of understanding between a speaker and a listener in our daily conversations. :D
Cheers!
Posted by : Tan Kah Fei
Signal Smoke to Skype
Communication has always been an inportant demand of all cultures. From the time of our ancestors, people have been using various mediums to communicate. In fact, smoke signals were the first step of communication. Besides that, people also communicated by using drumbeat, drawing pictures on cave walls, using doves to send top secrets and many more. Then, came the second phase of communication where people started using letters and telephones. Now, in this present century, most communication is done using the Internet or via Skype.
The process of communication may happen between people of same language and culture or people of different culture and language. However, there are always problems when cross-cultural communication occurs. This happens because each individual may analyse and intepret others' message according to their own expectations and when their expectations are not met, misinterpretations would occur. So, when people of different cultures communicate, they require a common language and of course nowadays, the only way of communicating is by using translations.
But, the question is how did people of different cultures communicate in the past? How did they understand the message that was conveyed to them? Well, the only possible way of communication was by using non-verbal communication. Below are some examples of non-verbal communication followed by its significance.
(i) FACIAL EXPRESSION
a) Smile - communicates happiness and frendliness
b) Raised eyebrows - surprise or disagreement
(ii) GESTURES
a) Hand movement - indicates a particular meaning, feeling or intention.
b) Thumbs Up - sign of approval or hitchhiking.
(iii) DRESS CODE
a) Male - shirt, pants and tie.
b) Female - skirt and blouse.
However, people still use this non-verbal communication to communicate nowadays as it is an essential part of communication. People have become more advanced now. They also use latest technology such as the Internet or Skype to communicate. They communicate with many people from different cultures and different parts of the world. Therefore, we should keep in mind that although there are different types of cultures, we still can communicate with one another. Even we are unable to communicate verbally, we can always communicate non-verbally.
posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
Friday, September 18, 2009
Perception : False Again!
Perception - the process of attaining awareness. Well, in other words, the way of understanding the world. Perception is indeed an essential part of communication as it influences ones communication choices. A perception is not necessarily true, there is a very high possibility for it to be false. Many of us perceive different situations in different ways. As a COMMON human being, I also make my own perceptions . The short story below shows an example of a wrong perception made by me.
At the beginning of this semester, I was in a terrible state of confusion as I did know what subjects to choose as my electives. I was sure to take Psychology and Business as my electives for my final semester but I wasn't sure of what subjects I wanted to take for this semester. Many of my friends who have been studying in HELP told me to take Introduction To Hospitality And Tourism. At first, I was a bit reluctant to take that subject because it had nothing to do with what I am planning to do in the future. Since I was running out of choices, I had to make a decision, and Tourism it was. Initially, most of the "seniors" told me that Introduction To Hospitality And Tourism is a very easy subject. Therefore, my perception made on this subject was exactly what I had heard from them. Unfortunately, when I attended the first class and when I was introduced to the subject in depth, I realized that my perception was totally wrong.
This is because Introduction To Hospitality And Tourism is a subject that requires a lot of patience, as the lectures are pretty long. We'll have to sit in the Lecture Theater for at least three hours. Sitting in one place for three hours can be very boring and frustrating. In order to fulfill that, you need to have a lot of patience.
Secondly, this subject also requires a great amount of passion. We'll have to like the subject in order to understand it better. Although this concept applies to all the other subjects, this particular subject definitely requires a tinge of extra passion. Moreover, this subject requires you to work really hard and it is not EASY at all!!! As for me, I had a tough time initially, but now, I am slowly beginning to like this subject.
Therefore, we shouldn't simply make perceptions without clarifying it. I was completely wrong because I made a wrong perception about this subject just by listening to what others had to say. Now, I've learnt that although it is common for one to make perceptions, he or she has to make it a point to clarify the perception or else this can lead to many other problems.
posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
At the beginning of this semester, I was in a terrible state of confusion as I did know what subjects to choose as my electives. I was sure to take Psychology and Business as my electives for my final semester but I wasn't sure of what subjects I wanted to take for this semester. Many of my friends who have been studying in HELP told me to take Introduction To Hospitality And Tourism. At first, I was a bit reluctant to take that subject because it had nothing to do with what I am planning to do in the future. Since I was running out of choices, I had to make a decision, and Tourism it was. Initially, most of the "seniors" told me that Introduction To Hospitality And Tourism is a very easy subject. Therefore, my perception made on this subject was exactly what I had heard from them. Unfortunately, when I attended the first class and when I was introduced to the subject in depth, I realized that my perception was totally wrong.
This is because Introduction To Hospitality And Tourism is a subject that requires a lot of patience, as the lectures are pretty long. We'll have to sit in the Lecture Theater for at least three hours. Sitting in one place for three hours can be very boring and frustrating. In order to fulfill that, you need to have a lot of patience.
Secondly, this subject also requires a great amount of passion. We'll have to like the subject in order to understand it better. Although this concept applies to all the other subjects, this particular subject definitely requires a tinge of extra passion. Moreover, this subject requires you to work really hard and it is not EASY at all!!! As for me, I had a tough time initially, but now, I am slowly beginning to like this subject.
Therefore, we shouldn't simply make perceptions without clarifying it. I was completely wrong because I made a wrong perception about this subject just by listening to what others had to say. Now, I've learnt that although it is common for one to make perceptions, he or she has to make it a point to clarify the perception or else this can lead to many other problems.
posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
Music and me.
How does music play a role in Human Communication? For instance, music can help people who have trouble in communicating (eg. autism,behavioral problems and dyslexia.) It is psychologically proven that music can help improve their communication. This is because, music has been found to be related to human communication in some ways. When you watch a movie there is always background music. Without the background music, we may not understand or feel the situation. Music is International. Music brings the world together. Music helps us relax and release tension. So, put on those headphones of yours and let us all enjoy music.
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Weird
Do you still remember the old days when you were in Standard 1? Maybe some of you do and maybe some of you don't. Well, I don't remember much but there's this one laughable-galling memory that I just couldn't forget. Every kid has their own friends and they always play Tag or other games together during recess. Unfortunately, I am not one of those kids. I have a number of friends back then but I didn't actually play with them. I was on my own. The reason for this is because I was extremely shy. I was quiet at first but towards the end I did have a few close friends. However, there was this girl who's attitude was like some kind of "taiko"(gangster). One time, my teacher didn't come for class cause she was absent. So, we had to join other class due to no replacement teacher. I joined with the girl's class where I sat at the way back. There was I, being quiet and shy. Then, this girl came to the back to sharp her pencil. The dustbin was right beside me. She was sharpening her pencil and I was at the side doing my own business which was sitting and doing nothing. Suddenly, she looked at me and slapped my face a few times while she said "Cakap la, cakap la". I didn't react to that because I was tongue-tied and it was just plain weird. It gets worse every time I see her at school. She will slap my face and say the same thing whenever she sees me. Again, I was speechless and I didn't say anything whenever I was around her. Heck, I was afraid of her back then. So basically that's how me and her communicate.. by slapping. I was afraid she was going to punch me if I didn't speak. Luckily she didn't do it. We started talking when we were in Form 2. It took us such a long time to say Hi. Well, now we are best friends ever since. See how funny can things be?
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Self evaluating is important for everyone no matter who you are or how old you are.
As what the notes say.
We should always find out what is our weakness and try to figure out it.
If you feel that your friend like treating you in some ways that make you unhappy or leaving you, then it must be something wrong with your behavior. By the time you should know what to do, which are :figure out what what happen to yourself and try to humble yourself, think what is your lack. It is sure that if you are really good, people wont don't like you and leave you right??
So, ask what is your problem, what wrong with you??
you know, sometimes we really need somebody to tell the truth of your life, then only we can 'grow' in our behavior. In addition, you yourself must also be mature treating what people commented on you. If you want to see changes in your life, you must be humble, accept comments that really hit on your heart.
And if you have a friend who is always tell the truth about your life, you should appreciate.
This kinds of friend is hard to find at all..
david
As what the notes say.
We should always find out what is our weakness and try to figure out it.
If you feel that your friend like treating you in some ways that make you unhappy or leaving you, then it must be something wrong with your behavior. By the time you should know what to do, which are :figure out what what happen to yourself and try to humble yourself, think what is your lack. It is sure that if you are really good, people wont don't like you and leave you right??
So, ask what is your problem, what wrong with you??
you know, sometimes we really need somebody to tell the truth of your life, then only we can 'grow' in our behavior. In addition, you yourself must also be mature treating what people commented on you. If you want to see changes in your life, you must be humble, accept comments that really hit on your heart.
And if you have a friend who is always tell the truth about your life, you should appreciate.
This kinds of friend is hard to find at all..
david
Monday, September 14, 2009
Frightening=.=
Wow !just back from the Final Destination.
but im quite disappointed about that, not because about the scene in the movie but because it is too short for me.
Sum more many of the scenes show me that they are just muddle through.
Cause some of the victims die too easily. For example, one of the man that talk so much but his life just ended by a van 'bang' on=.=
and also, the main character die in the same way. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Besides, through the whole movie, i know that the author of this film is full of imagination,
many thing that happen make me surprise and i can't even guess what will happen at the next scene. He shows his hard work and talent on it. It is good on that.
In addition, what the film tells me??
Its tells me that sometimes we really need to sacrifice to make things different.
For example, you know that gossiping is bad and it will break some relationship, but you don't dare to walk out a step to tell that person it is wrong because of 'face'. It is such types of selfishness for me.
In the other hand, I disagree that fate is already be set. It can be change if you know the truth of life 'Jesus'.
I really got some idea how a movie or a film communicate.
Messages can be send through in different ways and we have to learn how to receive it..haha
David
but im quite disappointed about that, not because about the scene in the movie but because it is too short for me.
Sum more many of the scenes show me that they are just muddle through.
Cause some of the victims die too easily. For example, one of the man that talk so much but his life just ended by a van 'bang' on=.=
and also, the main character die in the same way. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Besides, through the whole movie, i know that the author of this film is full of imagination,
many thing that happen make me surprise and i can't even guess what will happen at the next scene. He shows his hard work and talent on it. It is good on that.
In addition, what the film tells me??
Its tells me that sometimes we really need to sacrifice to make things different.
For example, you know that gossiping is bad and it will break some relationship, but you don't dare to walk out a step to tell that person it is wrong because of 'face'. It is such types of selfishness for me.
In the other hand, I disagree that fate is already be set. It can be change if you know the truth of life 'Jesus'.
I really got some idea how a movie or a film communicate.
Messages can be send through in different ways and we have to learn how to receive it..haha
David
Sunday, September 13, 2009
LOVABLE DOGS
Recently, I found out that even when we are not communicating verbally we are actually still sending out messages. This struck me that in that case not only humans but also animals should be able to communicate messages eventhough they cannot talk. I started observing my dog, other dogs as well and true enough they were all communicating a lot of things by moving their head, eyes,tail,paw gestures and to be short practically every part of their body. I also observed other domestic pets but although they did send messages to each other they did not exactly communicate with humans as much as dogs do that is pets like fish,hamsters,iguanas and birds. Cats are better than these animals but in my opinion dogs are still the best.
Dogs these days are generally pampered and a classic example can be seen in movies like Beverly Hill's Chi Hua Hua. Dogs do anything to seek our attention. Try ignoring them and they will bark the house down and from the tone of the bark you will know that it is not a normal bark. They whine and they act similarly to small kids who are seeking attention. When you ignore them its like they are asking you "Is that television more important than me?".
The best scenes are when they have done something wrong and they know that they wrong and in deep trouble. The facial expressions that they give can actually win Oscar awards. They will give you this look telling you that " I didn't do anything. Why are you looking at me?" They give you this pitiful look which can make your heart melt . For example, my dog when she has done something wrong she will look at you as if the world has ended for her. When my mom holds her collar and asks her who did this she will start whining so loudly as though we are torturing her (they are great actors by the way).
Besides being great actors, they are very smart too.My aunt's dog when he is hungry he will hit his plate for food and if he is still hungry he will bring his plate straight to my aunt for more food. Dogs will love you no matter who you are . Their feelings are genuine and easy to understand compared to humans. In short, dogs are men's best friend. Its a cliche but it is 100% true.
Below is a video of a dog which can baby sit...
Dogs these days are generally pampered and a classic example can be seen in movies like Beverly Hill's Chi Hua Hua. Dogs do anything to seek our attention. Try ignoring them and they will bark the house down and from the tone of the bark you will know that it is not a normal bark. They whine and they act similarly to small kids who are seeking attention. When you ignore them its like they are asking you "Is that television more important than me?".
The best scenes are when they have done something wrong and they know that they wrong and in deep trouble. The facial expressions that they give can actually win Oscar awards. They will give you this look telling you that " I didn't do anything. Why are you looking at me?" They give you this pitiful look which can make your heart melt . For example, my dog when she has done something wrong she will look at you as if the world has ended for her. When my mom holds her collar and asks her who did this she will start whining so loudly as though we are torturing her (they are great actors by the way).
Besides being great actors, they are very smart too.My aunt's dog when he is hungry he will hit his plate for food and if he is still hungry he will bring his plate straight to my aunt for more food. Dogs will love you no matter who you are . Their feelings are genuine and easy to understand compared to humans. In short, dogs are men's best friend. Its a cliche but it is 100% true.
Below is a video of a dog which can baby sit...
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
EYE CONTACT
What does someone mean when he or she says "Eye Contact?" According to Wikipedia, eye contact is a meeting of the eyes between two individuals. It is also a form of nonverbal communication and it is thought to have a large influence on social behavior. When I was much younger, I always had a problem of maintaining my eye contact with anyone whom I used to speak to and I also never really knew the importance of maintaining eye contacts. But as I grew older, I realised that it is essntial to show eye contact when you are communicating as it is an important area of body language. Eye contact is a powerful communication tool. It enables you to connect with your audience, project sincerity and openness, and keep your listener's attention. Researches have shown that about only 10% of communication comes from what we actually say, 30% is made up of the tone in your voice and the remaining 60% of communication comes from your body language. Hence, it is proven that eye contact plays a crucial role in communication. There are several reasons on why eye contact is an important part of communication :
- Eye contact indicates that you like each other - At times, eye contact is a wonderful way to feel that you are being liked. When someone likes you, he or she may maintain an eye contact with you or if someone does not like you, they may give you an indication by refusing to look at you.
- Eye contact indicates that you are listening - A good listener only listens 80% and talks 20% of the time. Therefore, if you are a good listener, you will know that it is essential to show eye contact as a prove that you are listening.
- Eye contact indicates that you are trustworthy - When someone avoids maintaing an eye contact with you, it may be an indication that they are shy, ashamed of something or guilty.
- Eye contact indicates that you respect the person whom you are talking to - When you are talking with someone and you are maintaing your eye contact with that person at the same time, it shows that you are respecting the person because you are not allowing yourself to be distracted by whatever that is happening in your surroundings.
To sum up, eye contact is a very important part of communication. When you maintain your eye contact with someone, it actuallly carries a lot of meaning. As stated above, eye contact enebles you to project sincerity and openess and other. The lady in the video tells us the importance of eye contact in communications.
posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
MISCOMMUNICATION
This incident struct my mind a few days ago in college as we were discussing about "miscommunications." I am sure many of us have miscommunicated with others many times. I have also experienced the same problem with my maid a couple of times too. Initially, when my maid had come down from her country, I had a lot of problems talking to her. This was because she could not understand what I used to say to her and vice versa. As a result, she would end up doing a different thing instead of doing what she was told to many times. But as time passed, I realised that I had to adjust and accomodate to her way of talking by trying to understand her signals. Although, we spoke the same language, Malay, but she comes from a different culture. So, our way of communicating was totally different. It took me quite awhile to get used to her way of communicating. Now, there are no longer any miscommunications between the both us.
Based on the situation above, miscommunication can be defined as an interaction between two parties in which information was not communicated as desired. there are actually three main reasons why miscommunications occur :
- Expectations (When we communicate, we always expect and hope as well as we always look forward only to certain responses. when we do not get what we are expecting for, this is when a miscommunication occurs).
- The channels of message delivery (Although there are other ways of communicating such as using body language and others, it does not fully describe our experiences and images. Hence, what we say are truly only a portion of what we really want to communicate. Therefore, a degree in which you can pass on your experience is completely dependant on your way of communicating as well as your capabilities).
- Our internal filters ( We often intepret a message based on what we hear and what we see and from there, we tend to make assumptions. Whether our interpretation is true or false, we always take it as a different question completely. Now, this is where we make a mistake. If our assumptions are false, miscommunications would definitely occur.
The comic strip above shows an example of a situation that involves miscommunications between two parties.
posted by : MITHRAH KURHANDRAN
A meeting with a stranger
Nowadays we are always advised not to talk to strangers( at least I am ) that is especially if you have very very protective parents and it is even worst if you are a single child. We hear things happening around us everyday and this plays a big role in scaring as well as worrying parents to the maximum about their childrens' safety. But coming to think of it, what would be our reaction if we are approached by a stranger? Actually our reactions would vary depending on the individual.
A few days ago, I was having my dinner in a restaurant. I was alone because all my friends had gone back home and I am the only one staying in the hostel. I was playing games in my phone while waiting for my food to arrive. Then a middle aged man came, he was looking around and he came straight up to me and asked if the food there was good. For a moment I was tongue tied. Then i quickly composed myself and blurted out that it was okay. The waiter gave him the menu and he chose his meal. By this time my food had arrived. As I was eating he came and asked me if he could join me. Again I was taken aback and I shoke my head dumbly. Numerous weird thoughts flashed in my mind. A voice inside me was telling " do not panic be cool be cool". The man started enquiring about me that is he asked my name, what I was studying, where am I from, how many people are there in my family and he even asked me why am I not studying abroad. My adrenaline was going wild but I answered all his questions as briefly as possible while thinking how screwed I will be when my mom gets to know about this.
Through out the whole conversation I was trying to make a judgement of him. His eyes were benign, his smile was genuine and he was seated comfortably in his chair with a newspaper. He seemed to be a nice gentleman. I finished my dinner and was about to excuse myelf to pay the bill when he said " Don't bother paying. I will pay for you." I said that it was okay and I will pay for the food myself and I did not want to trouble him, then he said " It is not going to cause me a fortune plus you remind me of my daughter!" I was really touched by this and I got to know that his children were living abroad.
This encounter made me realize that not all strangers are bad and that we can judge people to a certain extend from their verbal and nonverbal messages. But still we should not jump to conclusions as first impressions and assumptions can be wrong. As for me I think that I need not be so paronoid but cautious when meeting strangers.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
A few days ago, I was having my dinner in a restaurant. I was alone because all my friends had gone back home and I am the only one staying in the hostel. I was playing games in my phone while waiting for my food to arrive. Then a middle aged man came, he was looking around and he came straight up to me and asked if the food there was good. For a moment I was tongue tied. Then i quickly composed myself and blurted out that it was okay. The waiter gave him the menu and he chose his meal. By this time my food had arrived. As I was eating he came and asked me if he could join me. Again I was taken aback and I shoke my head dumbly. Numerous weird thoughts flashed in my mind. A voice inside me was telling " do not panic be cool be cool". The man started enquiring about me that is he asked my name, what I was studying, where am I from, how many people are there in my family and he even asked me why am I not studying abroad. My adrenaline was going wild but I answered all his questions as briefly as possible while thinking how screwed I will be when my mom gets to know about this.
Through out the whole conversation I was trying to make a judgement of him. His eyes were benign, his smile was genuine and he was seated comfortably in his chair with a newspaper. He seemed to be a nice gentleman. I finished my dinner and was about to excuse myelf to pay the bill when he said " Don't bother paying. I will pay for you." I said that it was okay and I will pay for the food myself and I did not want to trouble him, then he said " It is not going to cause me a fortune plus you remind me of my daughter!" I was really touched by this and I got to know that his children were living abroad.
This encounter made me realize that not all strangers are bad and that we can judge people to a certain extend from their verbal and nonverbal messages. But still we should not jump to conclusions as first impressions and assumptions can be wrong. As for me I think that I need not be so paronoid but cautious when meeting strangers.
Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand
He likes me, he likes me not.
Disclaimer : For all the girls out there this is not 100% true, so don't give your hopes up so easily =).
Being a fan of comedies, I have noticed relationship situation comedies are becoming a trend, for example The Proposal, The Ugly Truth and He's Just Not that Into You. From these comedies you might actually learn a thing or two about relationships between men and women though body language and communication. Recently I watched He's Just Not that Into You and I find it really interesting that that women especially could misinterpret signs from men, ah yes the word is ambiguity. Men who hook up with women are actually not sincerely interested in them. There are a few signs to know of if he is interested in you or not.
1. He calls you the next day for lunch/dinner, he might be interested in you.
2. If a guy is giving his phone number instead of yours, he is not interested in you.
3. When you talk to him he seldom has eye contact and gives you short answers in reply, he is not interested in you.
4. If he shows genuine interest, he will smile at you a lot and say hi.
5. He makes excuses every time you want to hang out, he is not interested.
These are a few signs, trust me there are many more. I am no relationship guru or anything but a little knowledge on relationship doesn't hurt right?
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
Being a fan of comedies, I have noticed relationship situation comedies are becoming a trend, for example The Proposal, The Ugly Truth and He's Just Not that Into You. From these comedies you might actually learn a thing or two about relationships between men and women though body language and communication. Recently I watched He's Just Not that Into You and I find it really interesting that that women especially could misinterpret signs from men, ah yes the word is ambiguity. Men who hook up with women are actually not sincerely interested in them. There are a few signs to know of if he is interested in you or not.
1. He calls you the next day for lunch/dinner, he might be interested in you.
2. If a guy is giving his phone number instead of yours, he is not interested in you.
3. When you talk to him he seldom has eye contact and gives you short answers in reply, he is not interested in you.
4. If he shows genuine interest, he will smile at you a lot and say hi.
5. He makes excuses every time you want to hang out, he is not interested.
These are a few signs, trust me there are many more. I am no relationship guru or anything but a little knowledge on relationship doesn't hurt right?
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Misunderstanding
Oh goodness..communication makes me always judge people by looking at their behavior~
yea..through today's clip i had been recalled that there are really always misunderstand..
especially about relationship =.=
but im not wrong also..sometimes they are really too close..it makes many 'though'
we cnt always rely on vision really~
It was an experience.Few month ago, i was a leader of a cell group in my church. It is quite busy as a leader, so i have lots of things to do and much things to communicate with my assistant.
As the time goes on, people outside though that we are couple. what the!! then my leaders meet me and give me advises, feel sad that moment. People acts really makes one's receive different msg, different people will receive different msg.
So ,don't make confirmation before you know the truth.
David
yea..through today's clip i had been recalled that there are really always misunderstand..
especially about relationship =.=
but im not wrong also..sometimes they are really too close..it makes many 'though'
we cnt always rely on vision really~
It was an experience.Few month ago, i was a leader of a cell group in my church. It is quite busy as a leader, so i have lots of things to do and much things to communicate with my assistant.
As the time goes on, people outside though that we are couple. what the!! then my leaders meet me and give me advises, feel sad that moment. People acts really makes one's receive different msg, different people will receive different msg.
So ,don't make confirmation before you know the truth.
David
Advertising
People just like to laze in front of their television after a strenuous day at work or college. While waiting for their favorite show to start, there are tons of adverts popping up on the TV. These media or business companies are trying to promote their products within a minute mostly through a short act. So, what is advertisement? Advertisement is a communication of a sales or persuasive message designed to attract public attention to buy their products. There are number of reasons for advertising some of which are as follows:
These are the main reasons why advertising is so important. They can come out of anything creative just to reach their objective. The TV is not the only place where they can advertise their products or services. However, there are many types of advertising :
The objective of advertising doesn't necessarily has to be about promoting their products or services. As I said before, they can come up with any creative ideas to make their adverts more engaging and captivating. Some advertisements can be full of humor, some that can make you cry, and some that is just plain gormless. Therefore, I selected 3 advertisements that is a Digi Easy Win Contest which is being played by my brother and 2 clips from Petronas Hari Raya advert. The reason why I chose the Digi advert is because it's funny and the Petronas advert sends out a very important message that it touches my heart. Enjoy!
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
- Advanced the sales of the product or service.
- Creating and maintaining a brand identity or image
- Preface of a new product or service
These are the main reasons why advertising is so important. They can come out of anything creative just to reach their objective. The TV is not the only place where they can advertise their products or services. However, there are many types of advertising :
- Print advertising - Newspapers, Fliers, Brochures, Magazines
- Outdoor advertising - Kiosks, Tradeshows, Events, Billboards
- Broadcast advertising - Internet, Television, Radio
- Covert advertising - Advertising in Movies
- Public Service Advertising - Advertising for Social Causes
The objective of advertising doesn't necessarily has to be about promoting their products or services. As I said before, they can come up with any creative ideas to make their adverts more engaging and captivating. Some advertisements can be full of humor, some that can make you cry, and some that is just plain gormless. Therefore, I selected 3 advertisements that is a Digi Easy Win Contest which is being played by my brother and 2 clips from Petronas Hari Raya advert. The reason why I chose the Digi advert is because it's funny and the Petronas advert sends out a very important message that it touches my heart. Enjoy!
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
Attention Seeker.
Is it true that you tend to be closer to people who gives you more attention? It is a fact that human beings need attention. Here are a few typical examples, an older child gets jealous because his/her parents give more attention to the younger sibling, my grandmother pretends to have leg pain around my parents, but when their away, she can walk better than any other grandmother out there and sometimes, children even cause trouble in school just to get their parents attention, because the parents work all day and hardly ever sees them. So yes, poeple DO need attention, but why do we need attention? Is it because we need it for the sake of wanting it? We need attention because we feel special, cared and loved by someone. It makes us better as human beings feeling loved and needed. So why wait? Be nicer to people around you and you as a person will benefit from it. It's a win-win situation. =)
by Jillian Cheong Ping Ling
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Speak Up!
Mumbling is when you speak so muted on enunciation to the extent that people don't understand what you are actually trying to phrase. The reason why I pointed out on mumbling because it happens to me in my everyday life. When I speak, I tend to mumble quite often. For example, when I'm trying to say something or ask anything to my mom, her response will be "What? Speak up. I can't hear you". It's really annoying and frustrating that it becomes a habit of mine. It's not that I don't know how to speak. The problem is that I tend to swallow my voice when I'm talking. When listening to what all the people around me communicate, I envy them sometimes cause they have the ability to speak very distinctly. However, I would love to master on how to speak without mumbling and here are some of pointers.
1) Slow down
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
1) Slow down
- When talking too fast, your words stumble over each other. Practice the habit of talking at a slow pace but not too slow that it bores the person that you're talking to. Medium pace is fine.
- Try to record yourself talking to a tape recorder or computer with a microphone. After that, try to listen back to your recordings. This might give you the chance to perceive what is fathomable, where your sentence goes wrong and so on.
- When questioning, it should go up in pitch at the end. When trying to stating a statement, your tone should go down. It is important to notice what words and syllables get accentuate.
- Listen to people who are good at enunciating such as television announcers and radio DJ. Not only that but notice how they express words, at what pace they talk and more.
- Practice by reading articles, magazines, or newspapers out loud and pronouncing every word accurately and coherently.
Posted by : Maisara Manja Bt Kamaruzzaman
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