Attractions - Relationships

What attracts us to a person? Other than a person’s physical attractiveness, people are also attracted by the personality of a person. First impressions are usually taken into account when we want to make a judgement about a person’s characteristics or behavior. First impressions can come in handy at times but most of the time the inference that we make from these impressions can be wrong. It all depends on the situation at that time. Hence, it is always best for us not to jump to conclusions about a person from our first impressions.



Apart from that, we will be attracted to a person if the person has the same interest or hobby as ours. These days this type of attractions usually end up as separates; that is, the two people cohabit and are not married but they enjoy being in the company of each other. Besides this, we will always like to be around people who are encouraging and motivating because this helps us to increase our self-esteem and self-confidence. We will have an increased sense of well-being. Thus, this can also cause us to be attracted to the person.


For teenagers, it is often said that the attraction that they have to the opposite sex is not true love but infactuation. This is proven true most of the time by the short lived relationships. It is a common thing that can be seen these days in schools where some students like to change their partners like they are changing clothes. I knew a classmate whose aim was to date as many girls as possible so that he can give the best when he finds his true soulmate ( I still do not get his logic).


Another incident that I heard of was about this man who was so into marrying this girl. What he liked the most about the girl was her outspoken and blunt way of saying things. So he got the permission of the girl’s parents and married her. Things were going on okay with the couple and they even had a son. After 5 years of marriage, I do not know what exactly happened but all I know is that he refused to live with the girl because of the same characteristics that he liked her for. He just left the girl with the child and went somewhere with only a phone call saying that he cannot live with her anymore.


This proves that people change, some for the better and some for the worst. The one thing that I do not understand is that how a person could like some characteristics of someone and a few years later end up hating that someone for that very same characteristics. I can only say that I need more experience in relationships for me to make a judgement about this incident.

Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand