Conflicts

People usually avoid getting into arguments or quarrels with another person but sometimes some people are pushed to their limits or they just happen to be hot tempered so they end up getting into quarrels. Some people like to use their age; that is, if they are older than the other person they use their so called experience or their superiority to make the other person shut up. It is also a common thing that when people are angry they do not listen to other people’s views and especially men, tend to get agressive; either by shouting or getting physical.



Besides this, people who are drunk also tend to get into fights more often than people who do not drink liquor. This is because when they are drunk, their body metabolism and their ability to understand things rationally is badly affected. I was told that in the olden days, during the British administration in Malaya the Indian workers who worked in the rubber estate were given cheap liquor. So when these workers were drunk enough and came back home; their wives and children were subjected to beating by them. I do not understand why they did it but the only rational explanation would be that it was the liquor which caused them to act thus.


Though it is said that in a relationship occasional conflicts are necessary, when the conflict is not solved or gets out of hand; then, the situation gets ugly. The people involved in the relationship may decide to separate and go their own ways. In the case of boyfriend and girlfriend, this separation will cause them heartache but no one else will be affected by it. Whereas if it is a married couple, their separation will have a great effect on their children. People do not realize that divorces can psychologically affect a child’s mind. I have a friend whose parents are divorced and the mother married someone else and the father married someone else too. Thankfully, my friend was practically brought up by her grandmother, so she got sufficient love and affection that she needed. However, sometimes she does feel a bit empty and neglected when she thinks about her parents.


In short, I think that it is best to avoid conflicts, unless both the parties are willing to solve it by understanding each other’s needs and wants. It might take time but it should be done before it is too late.

Posted by : A.Padmassini A/P V.Anand